As a principle-centered person you try to stand apart from the emotion of the situation and from other factors that would act on you, and evaluate the options. looking at the balanced whole-the work needs, the family needs, the other needs that may be involved, and the possible implications of the various alternatives - you'll try to come up with the best solution taking all factors into consideration. we are limited but we can push back the borders of our limitations.
Balance. it was all about balance. that had been one of the first things that she had learned: the centre of the seesaw has neither up nor down, but upness and downness flow through it while it remains unmoved. you had to be the centre of the seesaw so the pain flowed through you, not into you. it was very hard. but she could do it!
[i]n contrast to the common belief that they are the world's greatest cynics, the best journalists are the world's great idealists. They have experienced firsthand the great soothing balance of human existence. For every disgrace there is triumph, for every wrong there is a moment of justice, for every funeral a wedding, for every obituary a birth announcement.
The worst part was that i had things i wanted to tell my mother, too many to count, but none of them would go down so easy. She'd been through too much, between my siters-i could not add to the weight. So instead, i did my best to balance it out, bit by bit, word by word, story by story, even if none of them were true.
The nice thing about a series is you can end on cliffhangers all the time. you can be like, 'you know what? here we go, this person just died, end of book.' and with the end of the series, you're very conscious of all the plotlines that were left hanging. there's a balance there to wrap those up but still leave it exciting.