There is no doubt that it is around the family and the home that all the greatest virtues, the most dominating virtues of human society, are created, strengthened and maintained. having a family guarantees that you have a built in support system, and although that support system may not always be what you want it to be, when it comes down to the wire, your family will love you and stand behind you, no matter what.
I never have people tell me their stories. i usually have to figure them out myself. because i know that if people tell me stories, they will expect them to be remembered. and i cannot guarantee that. there is no way to know if the stories stay after i'm gone. and how devastating would it be to confide in someone and have the confidence disappear? i don't want to be responsible for that.
I travel a lot. It used to be, when i would go to any country, i could guarantee that the first question would establish my name, and the fact that i've written roots, and the third question, at least no later than the fourth question would not be a question, so much as a statement, something like, "we understand that in america white people do such and such bad things to black people."