You can even say that i hated myself at certain periods. I was too fat, or maybe too tall, or maybe just plain too ugly ... You can say my definiteness stems from underlying feelings of insecurity and inferiority. I couldn't conquer these feelings by acting indecisive. I found the only way to get the better of them was by adopting a forceful, concentrated drive.
According to my own experience, the highest level of inner calm comes from the development of love and compassion. The more concerned we are with the happiness of others, the more we increase our own well-being. Friendliness and warmth towards others allow us to relax and help us to dispel any sense of fear or insecurity so we can overcome whatever obstacles we face.
I knew by the way he looked at her that he held her in a higher regard than he held even himself. no selfishness or insecurity kept him from seeing the full extent of her goodeness, as it so often does with the rest of us. that kind of love may only be possible in abnegation. i do not know. my father: erudite-born, abnegation-grown. he often found it difficult to live up to the demands of his chosen faction, just as i did. but he tried, and he knew true selflessness when he saw it.