I surrender it to god, knowing that the pain itself is a product or a reflection of how i am interpreting whatever it is that is causing me pain. some pain is simply the normal grief of human existence. that is pain that i try to make room for. i honor my grief. i try to be kinder to myself. i give myself time to move through and to process whatever is making me sad.
Imagine any problem you have to be a huge, locked door standing in front of you. now see yourself taking a golden key out of your pocket. you brought the key here with you when you arrived on this planet, but you sometimes forget to use it. see yourself putting it into the keyhole, then watch the door swing open. on the key are inscribed these words, "unconditional love."
You can't remove that layer of pain by just saying, "okay, i'm not going to wallow in it." the only way to remove that layer of pain is to face what it says and to recognize it as the look in the mirror that it is, reflecting the things you did that you wish you hadn't done and the things you didn't do that you wish you had done.
Usually we try to figure out what we think would make us happy, and then try to make those things happen. but happiness isn't circumstance-de pendent. there are people who have every reason in the world to be happy who aren't. there are people with genuine problems who are. the key to happiness is the decision to be happy.