When i was a young man, i didn't think about having a family. my wife and i were too poor to have babies. then all of a sudden, one came along and scared the hell out of us because we had no money. once the baby arrives, you make do somehow. you fall in love with the baby and life adjusts itself. you find you don't need as much money as you thought. when that happens, you can ask the questions that should have come before the baby.
He thought about the story his daughter was living and the role she was playing inside that story. He realized he hadn't provided a better role for his daughter. He hadn't mapped out a story for his family. And so his daughter had chosen another story, a story in which she was wanted, even if she was only being used. In the absence of a family story, she'd chosen a story in which there was risk and adventure, rebellion and independence.