One of the interesting things about "outsidership" is that underneath it there's a longing to belong. i just wish the thing i refused to belong to - the species, western capital culture - was a little more respectable. my one true relaxation is my flotation tank, in which i can either meditate or just drift off.
Patriotism is "a very definite feeling of preference for one's own people or state above all other peoples and states, and a consequent wish to get for that people or state the greatest advantages and power that can be got - things which are obtainable only at the expense of the advantages and power of other peoples or states."
You can't remove that layer of pain by just saying, "okay, i'm not going to wallow in it." the only way to remove that layer of pain is to face what it says and to recognize it as the look in the mirror that it is, reflecting the things you did that you wish you hadn't done and the things you didn't do that you wish you had done.
Someone once said, if you scratch a cynic, and you'll find a disappointed idealist. that really rang a bell with me - because i recognized that, within me, there is this flame, of wishing it were better, wishing people had better lives, that there was more of an authentic sharing and harmony with nature.
The future inhabitants of [both] the atlantic and mississippi states will be our sons. we think we see their happiness in their union, and we wish it. events may prove otherwise; and if they see their interest in separating why should we take sides? god bless them both, and keep them in union if it be for their good, but separate them if it be better.